Wonder • Curiousity • Celebration
Is puberty magical?
This anonymous question came from a girl attending a Celebration Day for Girls (and of course I answered, ‘Yes!’). It highlights the intention of the day – to provide girls with an opportunity to learn about the wonder of their bodies and menstruation, and to frame the changes of puberty and growing up in a positive light.
The day is aimed at girls aged 10 – 12 years, and their mothers (grandmothers/aunties/female carer’s).
Through a day of fun activities and conversation, the girls explore puberty and menstruation as part of a natural cycle (like the seasons). They learn that sometimes our bodies are embarrassing and messy, but all the while, pretty amazing. They learn that their periods are nothing to be ashamed of or secretive about and that menarche (their first period) is a shared experience with every girl and woman in the world, and in fact, is celebrated in many cultures.
The day also brings mother’s and daughter’s together, in an activity-based afternoon of women’s stories, to welcome the girls to womanhood.
The Celebration Day is positively experienced by daughter’s and mother’s alike. It helps create the belief in girls that they and their bodies, are special, underpinning healthy self esteem, body image and decision-making.
The Celebration Day is held over one full day – the morning is spent with the girls, and the mum’s join us for a Celebration Lunch and an afternoon together.
A separate Mother’s Session is held anytime up to two weeks before this Celebration Day. This 2-hour session is an important preparation for the Day, allowing an opportunity to run through the Day with the mum’s.
A Celebration Day for Girls has been crafted by Jane Bennett (A Blessing Not a Curse), and I am thankful to have been trained and entrusted by her to bring this special day to girls and their mothers at this significant time in both their lives.
So why Celebrate?
How might it have been different for you if, on your first menstrual day, your mother had given you a bouquet of flowers…
Did you know that few women feel they were sufficiently prepared for the onset of menstruation, and few women were happy at this event.
A lack of information and emotional preparation results in a negative evaluation of the first experiences of menarche.
Our experience of menarche influences subsequent menstrual experiences, physical and emotional. This need not be a time of isolation and disempowerment.
- How did you feel at your menarche?
- How would you like your daughter to feel?
Father’s have a different, but important role during their daughter’s puberty and adolescence. Girls are very sensitive to the messages they receive from their father’s about growing up.
Girls are more comfortable and positive about menstruation and ‘becoming a woman’ when they receive acknowledgement and recognition from their father.
When girls have fathers involved in their day-to-day activities they are more likely to have higher self esteem, are more likely to complete schooling, to have a delayed first sexual experience, and a lower risk of teen pregnancy.
Father’s Celebrating Daughters is a 2-hour workshop where men can learn and explore ways to best support their daughter’s through puberty and menarche. It is often scheduled close to A Celebration Day.
Topics covered include:
- Understanding and supporting girl’s changes of puberty and menarche
- What is A Celebration Day for Girls, and what is a father’s role at this time?
- Understanding and mitigating the sexualisation of girls by media, advertising and the online world, including pornography
- Supporting self esteem, positive body image and healthy relationships
- How to share your values with your daughter, and listen to hers
- How to share a positive, respectful, loving and connected view of sex
- PMS, menstruation, cramps – helping girls toward menstrual wellbeing
- Ways to stay connected and relevant to your daughter, and enjoy each other’s company!
More than you know, Dad’s are important.
Fee structure for A Celebration Day for Girls
|For groups of less than 10 girls||$165 per girl|
|For groups of 10+ girls||$1500 for the group|
|I am happy to travel to your Celebration Day, and have been lucky enough to travel across NSW to do so. If flights or overnight accommodation are required, there may be an additional fee.|
Fee structure for Father’s Celebrating Daughters
|$25 per dad|